There would be few murders if it weren't for the circumstances that lead to them.

I know all too well how it feels to be taken over the edge by circumstances that cause aggravation, frustration, and anger. Learning to cope with the uncomfortable feelings that arise from negative circumstances is a slow and steady learning process. How thankful I am to have received the patient role modeling from my extraordinary parents - training that now reliably separates my negative feelings from aggressive actions. Many people never learn those basic skills at home but I believe they are the truest measure of successful parenting. Recently it was pointed out to me that there is a vast difference between criminals who are damaged and those who are not whole. In the years ahead, forensic psychological research may be able to accurately identify and separate those who are damaged and can be retrained, from those who are not whole and must be locked away forever.

Yes, even damaged people can be re- taught to separate their feelings from their actions. We must all work towards constantly improving a natural inclination to act out our feelings with angry words, by taking revenge, or by use of force.

We should continue developing that ability and support programs that help less fortunate people find ways to learn.