Surely it is the fear of embarrassment that causes so many people to avoid the speaker's platform. Without adequate and precise preparation the fear is not misplaced. One cannot be prepared for every contingency but some really savvy, updated skills can, indeed, lower the adrenaline rush to contain the out-of-control feeling that most people identify as fear or nervousness.

It is also amusing to know how others have handled embarrassing moments; perhaps it is also reassuring to know that heart attacks happen on cruise ships, never on stages.

During a debate, Stephen Douglas verbally attacked Lincoln calling him two-faced. Abraham Lincoln had always been sensitive about his homely face and so he said, I leave it to this audience to decide if I am two-faced; if I had another face, do you think I would wear this one."

A client I was coaching was sensitive about his weight and shape. When he presented to the field sales force they would welcome him back with enthusiastic applause and then tease him, albeit good naturedly about his shape. He had trouble getting through their teasing comments and wanted a way to handle the embarrassment he felt. I gave him a line to open which pro-actively handled the situation: "Thank you for welcoming me back so enthusiastically - and I know that you're all pleased to see that my anorexia is in remission."

By making fun of himself, as Lincoln did, he defused the moment and won the audience to his side.

Another hint - if ever you lose your place I suggest a forthright approach. "I seem to have lost my place, for which some of you may be very grateful." This worked so well for one client that she often loses her place on purpose, just to be able to use the line.

If you need a way to get through an embarrassing situation, just ask me.